Lesson 5: Gathering the experiences

[text_block style=”style_1.png” align=”left”]Sometimes, it’s better to get out of your head and get inputs from the outside world. But we must be careful about who we get that input from. You want to get advice from people who’ve been on your desired path before. It isn’t of much use to ask someone who has no idea what the path will be like. And you especially want to avoid conforming to society. Most people will only want to drag you down to their level.

So today, spend some time researching the role models who have walked similar paths. Find out the obstacles, challenges, sacrifices, effort, rewards, lifestyle, reality, expectations, pitfalls, timeline, best cases, worst cases, average cases, and excellent cases . If you could, meet these people face-to-face or at least send them emails.

If you get the chance to meet these people, also ask them about their experience. Find out how it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. What’s the messy part? What’s the boring part? What’s the hard part?

Now that you have all the factors, I’d encourage you to make a choice without overthinking. Your mind has got the input it needed. Now, it’s time for your heart to do the talking.

I could give you all the mental models, decision-matrix or crazy spreadsheet to weigh in your options, but it’s not that simple when it comes to making hard choices in life.

So instead, pick an option and make meaning out of it (that’s why this course is named “creating your purpose”, not necessarily “finding your purpose”). Just don’t pick the safest, easiest or the default choice just because it requires less effort or courage. Because the worst decision you can make is the choice of inaction.

Please watch this TED talk to understand what I mean: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8GQZuzIdeQQ

Another way to think about the problem is the “don’t be a donkey” approach by Derek Sivers. You can read the small post here: https://sivers.org/donkey

So realize that you don’t have to do everything in life right now. You can do one thing now and do the others later.

The most important thing is to just start. Start somewhere. It doesn’t matter if the steps are small or big, slow or fast. As Lao Tzu once said, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. In the next lesson, we’ll be fighting the internal battles. So get ready and make sure you pick a path before moving on.[/text_block]


[text_block style=”style_1.png” align=”left”]Tip: Click here to listen to Theta waves while doing the workbook exercises. They help you tap into your subconscious mind.[/text_block]